Thursday, April 19, 2007

Lying, Is That a Man Law?

As I walked in the door to my gym last night, I bumped into Madison... a girl I met while doing Jury Duty in January. We hung together and even served on the same jury, so we chatted alot and learned we lived relatively close in proximity and had alot in common. The gym being one of them. I had no idea what gym she went to though. I asked about her wedding which was just a few weeks ago and how the honeymoon cruise was... she asked about the boys and Richard and other chit chat. The big moment in this whole night was when she said "there's Chris! Over on the ab machine". oh lordy.....

Early last fall I was at the gym working on abs and legs when this tall, very buff black man came up to me and introduced himself. He asked if he could cut in and rotate thru the machine with me. Of course... thats the only proper thing to do. We made small talk (its awkward if you dont) and I learned he was a police officer in the area, not married but has a son. I'm sure there were other topics but after I was done with my sets, I excused myself... never to see him again for months.

About the first of February, I'm on the treadmill with my sister next to me and in walks this guy. He spots me and makes a bee-line to come chat. He stood and talked for a good 20 minutes. I introduced him to my sister, he asked about Richard and the kids (I cant believe he remembered all that), I asked him about his workout... He said he was training for some tri-athalon event in Canada at the end of March and was doing two workouts a day. Then he mentioned that he saw my sis at another gym. She agreed they'd seen each other (so confirmed he does work out alot). After some talk he went on his way.

One day, at the end of the month, I went to spin class after work. I never go to spin on the weekdays because it starts too early and I cant get there.... but for some reason, this particular day I made it. I crawled on a bike and heard this chatter from two girls I was by. The voice sounded soooo familiar and she was talking about her fiance's son and his mother and wedding plans, etc. I looked... it was Madison! I got her attention and we jabbered until class started and more afterwards. The wedding plans were going well and all looked good for the big March 31st event.

The next day, I'm working on biceps when I spot Chris on the machine next to me. He says 'come on... jump in my routine with me'. I tried to turn him down, but with police like force.... I was on my way to a hard core workout routine. I did what he did.... we talked more about work, school, kids... and I asked him if he was married (i already knew the answer but I just had to ask because something was amiss). He just shook his head no. (i'm having a feeling about now...)

Things have been clicking in my head for some time... but today they are really going 100mph. Madison is engaged to a black man. She's blonde hair/blue eyes... and she told me she was in an inter-racial relationship. I also know his name is Chris and he's a police officer because the day of Jury Duty we called him and told him what case we were on.

My 'friend' at the gym is named Chris. He's a police officer, unmarried and talks nothing of a girlfriend or engagement and is training for some tri-athalon thing in Canada which just happens to be the exact same time as Madison's wedding. Coincidence? Could be... but i'm thinking not! I really have this feeling I know both of these people who are getting married and neither know that I know the other!

We finished our workout and headed out. I wished him good luck on his competition.

I haven't seen either of them til last night. As she and I stood at the door talking, she waved over at her new hubby, Chris, and I turned to look at him... and it's Chris alright. The very Chris that has been talking to me... the very one who made no indication of a g/f... he waved with the biggest look of shock on his face. It was priceless! I turned and chatted some more... never indicating that we'd ever met. I really like Madison... but I really think she needs to watch more carefully.

Chris walked up to the counter and got his car keys, walked right past us... wouldnt look at either of us and wouldnt speak to her when she spoke. She said he was having a bad day. YEAH... he is. He got caught. I know the truth now! haha I betcha I never see him again....

Too bad too. He had great workout ideas, but too bad he couldnt just tell the truth and be honest. What was the point in lying anyways...

7 comments:

CruiserMel said...

Creep. 'nuff said.

Traveling Chica said...

Men are stupid.

Queen of the Mayhem said...

That's really not a good way to start a marriage. How very strange!


Thanks for stopping by my blog....I am trying your snoring idea on my husband TONIGHT! My favorite was the, "either way, you will sleep" AMEN TO THAT! :)

PS: please pass some of that exercise determination MY way!

Burg said...

Oh my.. I would have loved to be a fly on the wall with those two after that encounter..

Seriously, what a jerk!

Circe said...

Why on earth was he hiding that little fact? He knew you were married with kiddos so why hide his impending nuptials? I agree with Queen. This is not a good start to their marriage...

Kerry said...

She is such a nice girl with a great personality. I hope she doesnt get treated poopily (is that a real word?!) but if he is doing that now... what will he do later!

My guess is, he acted like he didnt know me either. lol

Queen: let me know how the nose pinching thing goes ;)

Trouble said...

I fail to see where he lied... Ask Madison if her fiance is going to do a triathlon in Ca. when they're getting married, if she says 'no', THEN he lied. Other than that, he just chose to keep you on a 'need to know' basis... Women do that all the time... Deny it... I sense a double-standard...
Not to target your friend Madison, but perhaps she is a particularly demanding, manipulative or jealous person... His gym time may be his 'me' time where he can escape that. It's been my experience with women... And I'm well experienced... That they rarely show their friends, and the general public the same 'side-of-themselves' that their men get to see.
He's a police officer, so he may possess some morals, did he hit on you? Perhaps he has his reasons for not divulging info about his intended nuptials...
The reason many women have so many problems with men, is that they spend a lot of energy characterizing them, and very little time actually trying to understand them...